Dear Abby: I asked a married man to leave his wife for me

Dear ABBY: I have been in love with a married man for more than 16 years. It started before he was married, but I was married at the time, so he married her. He always told me he wouldn’t leave his wife, but I hoped he would.

Three weeks ago I told him that I could no longer continue on this path and have a wonderful life. Two weeks later, he emailed me asking if he was still in my heart and said he had doubts about his marriage. We live 400 miles apart, but I drove up to see him last weekend.

He told me he loved me, which he had never admitted before, and said he wasn’t sure what he was going to do. Now I don’t even know what to do, nor how to act. So do I continue to find someone else in case he doesn’t choose me, or do I contact him so he doesn’t lose sight of me? – HEART BREAK IN VIRGINIA

DEAR BROKEN HEART: This person told you that he would never leave his wife and for 16 years he kept his word. He told you he loves you because you drew the line. This is his attempt to get you back into a relationship that is going nowhere. Pleasefor your own sake, move on and don’t contact him again.

Dear ABBY: Nine years ago, I cut off all ties with my mother-in-law after she accused my husband of sexually assaulting his sister when she was a teenager. His sister died nine years ago of starvation after being diagnosed with schizophrenia. Since then, I have not spoken to his mother. However, two of my children have recently married. I’m starting to feel guilty that I didn’t tell her that her two grandsons got married. Should I say something to her? — PLEA GUILTY IN ILLINOIS

DEAR GUILTY PEOPLE: I think you should talk to him. It is a shame that he lost both children. If you think it would make her feel better, you and your husband can tell her about the wedding – but only in the context of healing the breach that may have been created due to a betrayal suffered by your late spouse. mentally ill. the law.

Dear ABBY: My 21-year-old nephew is a dramatic and arrogant know-it-all. My issue is that he is disrespectful to me, especially in social situations. He will roll his eyes or flap his arms like I have two heads. He’s actually smart. Not sure how to handle it. Should I just ignore it, or should I deal with how I feel? – WORSE GRANDMA IN OHIO

Dear Grandma: You should definitely tell him how you feel if you haven’t already. He is acting like a grown up teenager. If his behavior continues, avoid him, if possible, as you would any other person who treats you with disrespect.

PS Also seriously consider “avoiding” him on his birthday, at Christmas, during graduation and any other occasion of donation.

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